Sο mу boyfriend wаѕ suppose tο come see mе fοr thе week. I live іn Illinois, аnd hе lives іn Springfeild (bc hіѕ job mονеd hіm). Hes tοld mе аbουt 8other times besides thіѕ time thаt hе wаѕ coming tο see mе, bυt something always comes up аnd hе hаѕ tο stay fοr “work related things” Hе’s аn executive manager ѕο hе hаѕ a lot οf responsiblilites. Or hes “οn thе way, bυt hаѕ car trουblе″ οr “wаѕ οn thе way, hаd car trουblе, hаd tο ѕtοр, time ran out, hаd tο gο home tο bе back 4 work”. THIS time, hе swore up аnd down thаt hе wаѕ coming 4sure, n nοt 2 worry. Hе calls me2hours til hе gets here, saying hes 2 hours away. THEN hе gets a phone call frοm hіѕ “mom” saying thаt shes engaged. Sο hе gets οff thе phone wіth mе bc hes gοt a conference phone call οf hіѕ whole family. Sο i ѕау ok nο prob, call mе back u know?3 hours later, i havent recieved a call. i fall asleep, wake up thіѕ morning, аnd i hаνе nο texts οr missed calls. I hаνе nο іdеа whats going οn οr whеrе hе іѕ. ADVICE/ COMMENTS??????
BTW, Ive bееn wіth hіm fοr 4 years οn thе 27th, аnd i hаνе a “promise ring”.
AND i hаνе nο іdеа whу i рυt SPRINGFEILD. hе υѕе tο live thеrе bυt hіѕ job transfered hіm tο Columbia SOUTH CAROLINA. LIKE 15 HOURS AWAY.
I cannot even be bothered reading this trivial monologue.
message me, we will talk.
Dump his A**!
It’s time to move on. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
Time for a new bf. He is either full of sh** or he just doesn’t have time for you. Either way. . .
he is trying to get away from you and doesn’t want a confrontation.
Time for a new bf – DUH!!!!!!! he is doing his new secretary
Give him time. Maybe something happened. Don’t jump to conclusions until you have all the facts. Be patient, it’ll work out.
FOR SOME REASON HE IS AFRAID TO COME TO SEE YOU CHANCES ARE HE PROBABLY IS INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE ELSE. AND DOESN’T WANT THAT OTHER PERSON TO FIND OUT ABOUT YOU.
He’s wanting to keep you in reserve. I think it’s time you cut him loose, because he’s just stringing you along. I’m sorry, but that’s what it sounds like. Put your energy into a relationship with a guy who keeps his promises.
if he really wants to see you, he will find a way. if he does not want, he will find a reason.
umm just drop the relationship cuz long distance relationship anit good
sounds like a cheater if i ever heard one. Funny that it is always the same excuse, one that he has used, and knows htat you will believe. Car trouble, not likely everytime, work, perhaps, but if hes really into you, he’ll drop work once in a while for you. The mom thing, dunno about that one, its a new one to me, but i’d say if he cannot make the time for you, dont give him the time of day.
hes either a. cheating on you or b. cheating on you.
there must be something seriously wrong in Springfield.
8 times is too much honey. move on.
He’s just not that into you. Find yourself a better bf. and one that lives in your town.
dont sound good for u u need to not worry about him and go out and have fun blow him off ur 2nd or 3rd on the list u need to b the only thing he wants
Sounds like he’s over you and just doesn’t have the balls to say so. Kick him to the curb you can do so much better then that.
ok girl you need to for real deop the looser he is not even good enough for you all he is going to do is keep lying to you about coming to see you why dont you call his mom and see if she knows anything about what is going on with her son but if i was you i would move on and find a man who will respect you and what you have to offer in a relationship
he’s avoiding you for some reason. work can be it but another girl too. anyway you should put a stop to this by asking him to stick to his word and show some respect towards you. after all you’re not a chore are you?so if he really wants to be with you he should prove it .
The more you waste your time studying his @$$ you could of been doing other things that are more worthy of your time, such as: washing your hair, picking your nails, or watching a pot boil hot water.
leave him if he cant be bothered with u then dont wast ur time bothering with him. his the one that’s gunna miss out not u.
Sorry he is being so rude to you if he wants out of this relationship he needs to be a man and stop playing the role of this lil boy who cant bring up the nerve to tell you you should move on and be with some one wants you all the time and not someone to drag you along and get your hopes up just to bring them down. good luck
He could be cheating if he uses this line then he is really cheating on u if he says he has to work late then u r in trouble just be careful and if he does want to show him that without him u r still good so go out and have fun with the girls to show u don’t always need to be right in his life and if he calls the wait and call a few hours later he will see that u dont have to have him
I think its time for you to move on! He obviously does not appreciate you. Even if he is telling you the truth, you should be more of a top priority for him, if he loves you. Never settle for second best. . GOOD LUCK
It seems like you are not important and if you persue you will only ending up hurting yourself. If he doesn’t have time 4 u, don’t make any time for him. Move on. Having confidence you can get any man on the planet.
I’m not your typical man but sounds to me their is something wrong on his behalf! If you keep with him make a note of every excuse but don’t complain. Stay in the back ground yourself, reverse Psychology! If he loves you I think he will put in the effort, But sorry to say I don’t believe what he says, too frequent! Don’t jump to too many conclusions though, collect more evidence!
Don’t presume he is cheating though as this may not be true!
Long distance relationship never works, unless you are married. Dating is looking for mr. /miss right. So my advice is you keep looking for Mr. right and let him look for Miss right. ( This is the blunt fact of life)
Not to be mean or anything but if your boyfriend really loved you don’t you think he would try a little harder to go and see you. When my parents were first going out my dad would drive one hour every single day just to go and see my mom for a little while. I think that you should be with a guy that you are the most important thing on his mind. Don’t get me wrong, he could really love you but he just doesn’t know how to appreciate and value you. He needs to stop worrying so much about his so called job and spend more time with you.
It sounds like he’s “danglin a carrot infront of the donkey”. He’s tellin u constantly that he’s cumin 2 see u only 4 sumthin 2 come up at the last minute. (Its a real coincidence that all these things happen 2 him at xactly the same time that he’s meant 2 b seein u) Thats givin u false hopes and u can do much better than this. Don’t fone or txt him,and tell urself that this is the last time he’s let u dwn. . . Ditch him and find sum1 who won’t constantly let u down and who will treat u with respect. . . . If he was a mature adult he wouldn’t mess u about like that. . . . Theres sum1 100 times better than him out there 4 u!!
You have quite alot of replies on this one. I ain’t going to judge. I would print it off.
1. It show he is upsetting you
2. It proves it’s not you being Paranoid
3. I think he should comment each answer if he loves YOU!
My man would never let me down like this!
What it do? What it is? OK, Let me tell what’s up. Are you ready for the novel? It can be a few things.
First of all let me make this comment. All long distance relationships are hard. Trust issues is the biggest thing, then not seeing them makes it hard.
1)He really doesn’t want to do the drive. He might love you and all but a 15 hour drive is a hell of a long long time. That would almost be like me going from Dallas, TX to Chicago, IL and to do it alone. Damn!
2)He’s cheating on you. He has another girl but “doesn’t want to lose you” so he just likes to get your hopes up so you think that still care. While you might be home spending you time doing nothing, waiting for him he might out having a blast not even thinking about you.
3)He’s Jealous type. He doesn’t want you to go out so instead of asking you to stay in he lies to you so you end up staying home waiting for him.
He is older than you obviously because of your prom question you asked last week. So it’s easy for him to confuse you don’t let him.
If you want to test him out, tell him to fly-in instead of drive because with the amount gas is at right now it is actually cheaper for him to fly in and it’s not a 15 hour flight it’s about 2-4 hours.
If he doesn’t he’s not worth your time. You seem like a nice pretty girl and you can defiantly find better.