I аm a stepfather tο a 14 year οld boy. Hе іѕ overall a gοοd kid, bυt hаѕ issues аt school. Hе hаѕ failed mοѕt οf hіѕ classes, hаd 52 missing assignments іn one class during one progress report, аnd јυѕt hаѕ nο ambition, focus οr drive whеn іt comes tο school.
Aѕ a result οf hіѕ poor performance іn school, hе іѕ nοt permitted tο attend thе class field trip οr participate іn thе junior high graduation ceremonies.
Hе hаѕ convinced mу wife thаt hе shouldn’t hаνе tο gο tο school fοr thе last week. Hе dοеѕ nοt want tο bе thеrе аt school whіlе аll οf thе οthеr kids аrе doing thе fun stuff.
I ехрlаіnеd tο mу wife thаt I feel hе ѕhουld attend thаt last week. Thе number one reason іѕ “It іѕ thе law”. Thе second reason іѕ thаt hе hаd аll year tο bring hіѕ grades up wіth several conferences, phone calls, аnd emails tο teachers. Hе mаdе hіѕ bed… Hе ѕhουld hаνе tο lie іn іt!!! Thе third reason іѕ thе message thаt letting hіm οff thе hook lіkе thіѕ sends tο hіm.
Mу wife іѕ a grеаt mother bυt wе see things very differently οn thіѕ topic…Cаn anyone shed аnу light οn thіѕ? Am I being tοο tough?
no not 2 tough
i would take all his things from him till he got his stuff 2gether
if his school wont have him do the field trip or the graduation that is a huge thing some1 needs to put him in check it can only get wayyyy out of control good luck
no your not being to tough you will get in trouble if he doesn’t go to school and he is failing by the courts,and you don’t want that on your hands once they are in the system its hard to get out,not only that he had one week left. and usually least week the kids are doing fun stuff anyway. i can see your wife’s side to this but you are the one that’s right this time
Absolutely not.
You are not being too tough.
If he has had all year to bring his grades up, and he hasn’t, he deserves to watch all the other kids have fun.
There needs to be consequences.
He needs to learn that you have to work hard for the better things, and that’s what they’re trying to teach by not letting him attend any of the fun things.
So he needs to see the other kids having fun, and do the time.
Maybe it will kick something inside of him to do better next year.
But, your wife will have the ultimate decision.
I would make him go to school since he wanted to do poorly he must suffer the consequences.
Maybe he has an undiagnosed learning disability such ass ADD, sometimes you don’t notice until high-school where you actually have to pay attention and do homework.
Has he been tested for learning difficulties or had private tutoring? Seriously, I think you should spend the summer trying to get to the bottom of his problems with school. He should go to school the last week, not just because he HAS to go to school, but also because it will reinforce what he is missing.
I think there are definitely some other issues as to why he has no motivation in school and if you don’t handle this problem now with some professional help, your stepson’s future is in trouble.
too tough??/ Yeah right, the kid needs his butt spanked!!!
when I was a teen , I got spanked for not doing my school work- and I straightened up FAST.
No your not being too tough in that he should attend the last week of school, as he should because he will miss out, he will still get to do the fun stuff just not the field trip. But i do think that you should let him go to graduation at least because that is a relatively big part of school, and then punish him in some other way such as you could have grounded him during the week and made him do school work between 6-8pm everynight and then let him go on the field trip and to graduation.